Learning to Let Go

Learning to Let Go

When we surrender to our higher power and allow ourselves to be guided by the source of light and wisdom within, we feel more aligned with our passions and purpose. When we let go of the need to be perfect, we open the door to the very belonging we so long for. In this blog post, I talk about the way the heart either closes us off from the world or opens us up to our full human experience where all parts of us are welcome, invited and nurtured.


“To fully embody the art and technique of conscious living,

it is important to acknowledge both sides of one’s self.”


Life doesn’t always go according to plan. the lesson of the heart is learning how to filter life’s many complex experiences from a state of forgiveness, compassion and balance. To discern what is useful and what is not and to apply all we know in the present moment to liberate ourselves from the illusion of separation and the pain of suffering.

“the only thing constant is change” – Heraclitus


We are always changing and adapting to life’s many challenges and triumphs. When we grasp tightly to what once was or what we believe life should be like, we block the natural flow of energy. As we learn to let go we place ourselves back into a state of harmony with all of life. Now is the time to take that step towards the new you. Try something you have never done before, do something you have always wanted to try. There are no limits to your potential, no rules, no boundaries other than the ones you create for yourself.

Do you feel unable to give yourself the alone time you crave?

Have you experienced a recent breakup, career shift, or loss of a loved one?

Are you able to provide yourself with the love and attention you need to heal yourself or do you feel overwhelmed, cluttered, and dissatisfied with your current situation?

Is it difficult for you to show empathy, compassion, kindness or love to yourself or another?

How do I know when I am balanced/imbalanced in the Heart Chakra?


To be balanced in the heart chakra is to approach every relationship with compassion, kindness, forgiveness and generosity. Our anima (feminine) and animus (masculine) have been equally developed and our relationships have stability, mutual respect and freedom.

When unbalanced one holds onto the past wounds that no longer exist in the present. One holds onto addictive behavior, cravings and chooses to escape through drugs, alcohol, sex, food and so forth. That isn’t to say all these things are “bad” yet when used without awareness as to why, they may have a detrimental effect on how we interpret our selves and current state of emotional balance.

Some struggle to maintain balance in everyday life by giving too much and not allowing themselves to receive. The Heart Chakra teaches us how to give and receive unconditionally. You cannot fill up other people’s cups if you yourself can’t fill up your own. It’s like when you board an airplane and the voice comes on and says ‘if you are traveling with a child, please place your mask on before helping others’ . Same concept. You matter, your health matters, your joy and self work matters and is the most important. One cannot give to others without first giving to one self. This applies to all relations and relationships in life. How can you show up for your family, friends and community if you don’t show up for yourself?


“Being a friend to yourself is no mere metaphor or purely sentimental idea. It is the basis of all relationships, because it is fundamental recognition of the soul.” -Thomas Moore


Can we be willing to acknowledge and understand the dark, dense and chaotic? The whole spectrum of emotions, the demons, envy, fear, worry, pain and anger.

To discern these emotions and their intuitive language means observing how they show up in the physical body, mental chatter, and relationships with our external environment. Learn to understand them fully and to channel their expression into proper action.

If we never allow ourselves to experience certain emotions then they will forever lurk in the dark waiting to sabotage us in order to be seen. As we acknowledge these parts of ourselves, we become allies with our demon and they serve us as our greatest teachers.

Do something unexpected, even outrageous, for another person. It may be a favor for a neighbor, cleaning your friend’s house, giving money to a charity or non-profit, homeless person, or paying for someone’s coffee in front of you, or taking time off work to spend it with your children. Joy uplifts and spreads more joy. If you are one who endlessly gives and are codependent then do something outrageous for yourself!